The chore of change

Change is a concept many of us struggle with, it comes at various stages in life for various reasons. Whether it be in a person’s career, the loss of a loved one, the end of a relationship, moving away to a new place or trying to make changes for your own personal growth, change is an inevitable fact of life, but can often be a hard pill to swallow.

So why is change such a struggle for us? Is it from our need for stability? A fear of what might be the outcome? Or is it just laziness, sitting in a comfort zone and carrying on because it’s the easy option?

What about when change comes from a place out of our control? When it’s something forced upon us?

This can really disrupt our need for feeling in control over our lives, but sometimes this is not the case and it just can’t be helped. However, what we can control is how we face it.

As people we really need to adjust our view of change, rationalise the reality that even though it’s difficult it doesn’t mean it's not worth the effort or that is will have a bad outcome.

The fear, the animosity, the struggle it’s all valid but that doesn’t mean it’s bad, and that’s where we need to change the prospective. Change can not only be daunting, but also exciting, eye opening and empowering.

Often, we say “it is not going to be easy but it is going to be worth it” and this is so vital when instilling change in ourselves and embracing change in our lives.

Change can be both a choice or something forced upon us but then again, is it? Is change ever really a choice, and is that really the best way to look at it? I mean can we really choose not to make changes if those changes are vital to ourselves? To our future? To our journey? Surely that can’t be a choice and shouldn’t be? Maybe that is the root of what we need to change most? Viewing change as something that can be ignored and shoved to the bottom or that it can be chosen. When in actual fact it’s to be embraced and attacked head on, accepted and acknowledged as vital and without the option to burry our heads in the sand.

I was a part of a conversation recently that discussed change and not making it a chore, but the reality is, it is a chore, in the sense that it is something we all need to do. This telling ourselves that change should be easy and fun is unrealistic, because it can put us off when the going gets tough and deters us from pushing forward, but the hardship is still worth it and we still need it. We need the change to grow, to develop, to become who we are meant to be and end up exactly where we are supposed to end up.

The bottom line is change is a chore but the thing about chores is we have to get them done to reap the rewards after, and the rewards of change will always come. Where we are supposed to

get too, will always arrive, and the changes are what will help get us there.

Whether it’s something for yourself or a change you are forced into, believe that it is there for a reason, and that it is vital to your story and should be embraced as such.

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