honesty is always the best policy!

As children we are taught never to tell lies, always be honest, tell the truth,

you won’t get in as much trouble if you tell the truth compared to if you lie. It’s

an age old saying honesty is always the best policy and this is something I

myself have felt incredibly strongly about, there are a few age old sayings I

follow and live by and this is incredibly high up there as one of the most

important ones.

“The truth will set you free but first it will piss you off” - Joe Klaas

The truth can be painful, angering, disappointing and heart breaking but the

fact is, it’s the truth and the truth is just that, fact.

We need honesty, we need the reality of a situation, how can we move

forward without it? The truth is something that can’t be covered up or ignored

because it never goes away, and we can’t cope, prepare, deal or embrace

something we know nothing about or are not facing head on.

So you need to go out for the day, you’re told it’s nice and sunny outside, so

you get dressed in shorts and a t-shirt, walk out of the door and it’s raining.

Isn’t it more irritating that you were told it was sunny and you walked outside

and got wet instead of being told it’s raining, you best wear a coat. It still

sucks that it’s raining but you still need to go out in it, you still need to walk

out in the rain and face the bad weather, you just need to know to put your

rain coat on step into your wellies and pull the umbrella out. We can’t change

the fact it’s raining, it doesn’t stop it raining because you were told it wasn’t, it

just leaves you in a position where you can’t act or do the right things to deal

with it in the best way.

“Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored.”

― Aldous Huxley

Giving honesty to others isn’t something we should choose to do it’s

something we have to do. Even with the best intentions, it is not our choice

how someone else feels about something or how they may want to cope with

something and it’s not our decision to make, failing to give someone the truth

at the worry of how they will react doesn’t change what has happened or what

is felt and it is there right to make those choices for themselves not for us to

shelter them from it. there is also the strain we have on ourselves not to get

caught out, what did I say and who to? Watching how we act or speak, the

weight on our shoulders, we don’t feel good carrying around the burden of our

own dishonesty, In the end both parties end up worse off.

“A harsh truth is less damaging than a tender lie, and the worst lies are the

ones we tell ourselves.”

― Dianna Hardy

Being honest and truthful isn’t just how we speak and behave towards others,

it is also about how we speak and behave towards ourselves, our ability to be

honest with ourselves with our beauty and even the ugly is what helps us

grow and learn. It also helps us fight for our dreams and walk away from what

we know isn’t right for us.

Why pretend to be a person that you could very well become if you would just

allow yourself to see the truth? Ignoring your failures, poor decisions, bad

habits and just pretending they don’t exist doesn’t make them go away, in fact

it does the very opposite. You are refusing to let them leave, refusing to allow

yourself to fight back. Even admitting to yourself you may not have an answer

to something you open yourself up to discovering it.

“Above all, don't lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his

own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or

around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no

respect he ceases to love.”

― Fyodor Dostoevsky

Recognise the parts holding you back. Embrace them, think about them, learn

from them and then, you can become that very person you're pretending to be.

No matter if it’s something you feel or something you’ve done, fact is fact and

that is something no one can change. Whether it’s addressing something in

your relationship or friendship, speaking to your parents or relatives or even

just something within yourself. Honesty truly is... Always the best policy!